35. How To Stop Procrastinating Your Runs and Get Out the Door

Unstoppable Ultra Runner with Susan Donnelly | How To Stop Procrastinating Your Runs and Get Out the Door

If you've ever found yourself reorganizing a drawer or cleaning the microwave instead of getting out the door for a run, you’re not alone. Every runner, no matter how experienced, hits moments where resistance feels stronger than motivation.

In this episode, I’ll share how you can stop procrastinating and start running. This doesn’t rely on motivation or guilt. It’s a surprisingly simple mindset shift that makes procrastination lose its power.

Discover how to build trust with yourself, create consistency without needing to feel motivated, and become the kind of runner who gets out the door - no matter the conditions.

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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why motivation is the least reliable tool for getting yourself out the door.

  • The hidden reason procrastination feels so powerful when conditions aren’t ideal.

  • How shifting from motivation to identity makes follow-through dramatically easier.

  • A simple way to rebuild trust with yourself through small, consistent actions.

  • How to get clear on what consistency actually looks like for your running.

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When you're supposed to be running but you suddenly find yourself cleaning out the microwave instead, you know you're procrastinating. But how do you stop procrastinating and actually get out the door? That's what I'm solving today, so come join me.

Welcome to Unstoppable Ultra Runner, the podcast for ultra runners who refuse to let anything hold them back. I’m your host, Susan Donnelly, veteran of over 150 100-mile races, and a coach who helps runners like you break through mental roadblocks, push past doubt, and run with confidence. Let’s go.

Welcome to Episode 35. No matter how dedicated we are to training for that race or maintaining fitness or just going for an important long run, sometimes it's hard to get out the door and actually do it. And since this is the season in the northern hemisphere where it starts getting cold and a little harder to face the elements, it's a good time to talk about how to make this easier.

But first, we need to look at what's really happening and why. And here are a couple of examples I've seen lately. There's a client cleaning out her microwave instead of going for her important long run because she was worried it wouldn't go well. And then the client facing either getting out the door in Minnesota cold, snow, and ice, or the dreaded treadmill run. Both options were hard and uncomfortable to her.

And then there's me. As I sit here today recording this right now, it's gloomy, close to freezing outside, and rainy - my least favorite conditions. And I'm going for a run after we record this, but I can feel the resistance to doing it just sitting here.

So, what I see this procrastinating thing crop up in clients and me is typically when conditions are less than ideal: cold, hot, dark, raining, any combination of those things. Fear of having a bad run, like that client, and fear of how hard the effort will be. Like you've set up this big, huge mountain long run, and it sounded dreamy at the beginning, and now that you're actually getting ready to go out the door and do it, you're thinking, kind of dreading how hard it's going to be.

So, it's no wonder we don't want to get out the door. We anticipate that it's going to be either mentally or physically awful, or both. So we try and solve this impasse with motivation, trying to create a reason to want to do it, to want to get out the door.

And this is what our motivation often looks like: shaming ourselves into it, using fear of going into a race unprepared because you haven't done your training and how it's going to catch up to you, using friends or a group or running group or a dog or social media for accountability to get you out the door, using guilt from missing your run the day before, reminding yourself that you're going to feel better when it's done. It's still going to be awful, but you'll feel better when it's done. Or trying to convince yourself that, yeah, it won't be so bad.

But none of these really work well, and certainly not on a reliable basis. Using shame, fear, and guilt on yourself might seem something like a tough runner would do, but it actually makes it even worse because you know that even if that run goes well, you're going to use that against yourself again tomorrow. So it doesn't make you look forward to tomorrow's run, when you'll do this all over again. And it really builds a negative habit that ultimately hurts your running in the long term.

And then relying on others for accountability is great, but it's unreliable because it's not your motivation. And it doesn't help you build your own dedication muscle. You're dependent on other people for it.

And then reminding yourself that you're going to feel better when it's done, that can work. I have used that. We all have. But feeling better is still on the other side of an awful run. You're still going to have that awful run. You got to pay for that good feeling with that awful run. And it doesn't make actually getting out the door in cold rain any more attractive.

Trying to convince yourself that it's not going to be that awful? Well, you know, we've all done that one too, but your brain knows you're lying. You don't know that it's not going to be that awful. It could be that awful. It could be bad, and it could be hard. You know you're lying to yourself.

And it's important to find a solid solution here because when you make it okay to find an excuse to skip the run, you're actually doing more damage than just missing that one workout. Promising yourself that you're going to follow through and then not doing it erodes trust in yourself. And that's the same trust that makes you stronger in a race. That's a trust you need in a race.

So every time you commit to something and then don't follow through, you're essentially telling yourself two things: I'm not worth following through for, and I can't trust myself to do what I say I'm going to do. And that becomes how you see yourself, as someone who can't stick with things, someone who can't be counted on, somebody who's not worth following through for, even by yourself.

So if all the usual things that we try and do to create motivation don't work well, maybe it's because we're trying to solve this from the wrong angle. And it's not the ways we're motivating ourselves, and we don't need to find another way to motivate ourselves. Maybe it's needing motivation at all. Because motivation is unreliable for creating the follow-through that you want. It's not going to create the consistent follow-through that you want, and here's why.

Motivation comes and goes. Some days you feel fired up, some days you don't. When motivation is high, you stick with things. When it's low, you drift away from your commitments and don't follow through.

So when you're operating from motivation, the way you feel affects whether and how you're going to follow through on your commitments. You wait to feel like doing your run. Like checking the weather three times and hoping it's going to change, scrolling on your phone for another 20 minutes. You negotiate with yourself about whether today's conditions are good enough. Like, it's too hot. I didn't sleep well. I have that meeting later.

You summon just enough motivation to do something, like maybe you'll get out and do three miles instead of the six you planned.

If you're relying on motivation to go run, you'll always struggle to follow through because there's just no north star guiding you forward. And what I mean by north star is a clear sense of who you are and what you do that doesn't depend on how you feel in that particular moment. Without that north star, every commitment to run becomes a negotiation. Every run becomes a decision.

Am I going to run really, or not? Is the reward that follows the run, like fitness, crossing off another training run, feeling good about your training, is that reward strong enough to overcome your resistance to getting out the door? That's the negotiation.

And you know when you're making excuses for not following through. You know when you're bailing on the run you planned. The kindest, strongest thing you can do for yourself is stop pretending you don't.

So, here's what to use instead. Instead of running from unreliable motivation, run from identity. When you run from identity, you don't need to be motivated to run because you're someone who is reliable. It's who you are. It's what you do. Instead of, it's Tuesday and I should go for a run today, it becomes, I run on Tuesdays. Instead of, I hope I can complete most of this training cycle, it becomes, I do my training.

You're someone who takes her promises to herself seriously and keeps them. You're someone who doesn't just say she can do hard things; she actually does them. You're someone who gets her own self out the door because she's strong like that. You're someone who takes that long-term goal of finishing the race seriously, even if it looks unrealistic to others who don't take it seriously.

You're someone who finds a way to train, even when it's hard and it doesn't go well. You're no longer someone who needs to find the motivation to stick with your training. You just do what you said you were going to do because that's who you are.

When you shift from motivation-based running to identity-based running, following through becomes automatic. You don't have to wait for motivation to magically show up from somewhere to follow through. It doesn't even cross your mind.

Think about other areas of your life where you already operate this way. You probably don't negotiate with yourself about whether to show up for work. Although you might grumble about it, you don't negotiate with yourself about whether you're going to do it. And you don't wait to feel motivated to brush your teeth every day. These things are just part of who you are.

The difference looks like this. You don't think, I need to find the motivation to brush my teeth. You just are someone who brushes their teeth. It's just who you are and what you do. And it's the same with your running.

I had a client who would find herself doing the strangest things, as we all probably have done, when the weather was bad and she couldn't have the easy run that she really wanted. She expected the conditions outside the door to be cold and wet and the running to be slow and take concentration to dodge patches of ice instead of being that nice, flowing kind of run where you can let your mind drift. That's the run she really wanted.

So she'd suddenly decide that her running gear needed to be reorganized or that now was a perfect time to research a new nutrition strategy or dig into those new gels and find out what's really in them. All kinds of running-related stuff, but she knew she was procrastinating and she couldn't seem to stop herself.

When we identified that she was operating from motivation instead of identity, everything changed. She decided she was someone who just gets out the door no matter what the weather. It's just who she is. Not someone who tries to find the motivation to run every day.

And the result, she told me - I still think it's going to be hard, but it passes. I put on my shoes because that's what I do on Saturday mornings.

The most immediate result of this approach is like my client. You still think that thought, it's going to be hard, cold, or bad, but it's transitory. Like I'm looking out the window and it's still gloomy and wet. So I know that's what it's going to be out there, but that's a transitory, just, check of the weather. It has no real punch. It's easier for you to get out the door. It's like, okay, yeah, maybe, and I'm going.

And of course, you get out the door reliably when you shift to identity. You get your runs in, which feels good. Feels so much better than missing them.

But the bonus is that you don't just feel good about that; you reaffirm your identity as someone who follows through, which then creates a positive upward cycle that looks like this: You get out the door, that confirms your positive identity as somebody who follows through, which makes it easier to get out the door tomorrow, which confirms that positive identity again. It's an upward cycle that way.

And even if you have a low period where you falter - we all do - you can remind yourself getting out the door is just who you are and what you do, and you can start that upward spiral all over again.

And here's one more bonus. You know all that mental negotiation and justification and deciding over and over again whether you're actually going to go out in that weather and run? It's exhausting, and it consumes a ton of time that could be put to something, anything better. It actually takes more energy and is more unpleasant and more awful in the long run than just following through. So shifting to identity actually saves you time and saves you energy.

And of course, the ultimate payoff here isn't just getting out the door. It's how good it feels to do what you'd said you're going to do and be the person you know you can be and do the run. As good as those miles feel, that feels better.

So, how do you make this shift? Well, first of all, you got to decide that you want to be consistent and reliable. This is a commitment. You got to decide, are you tired enough of the cycle of promising yourself you're going to do something and not delivering? This is where you stop accepting that undependable is just who you are and how you do things. Okay? So you got to make that decision and commit to it.

Second, you got to get clear on what consistency looks like for you. These are real questions. Do you run early every day? Is consistently starting when you said you would? Is it completing the daily workout as planned or maybe the weekly mileage as planned, if the days need to shift around in there? Is it still consistent to swap long-run weekends around when you need to but still get all the long-run mileage in the month? Is it okay to split long runs into two days' worth?

And what are the exact conditions when it's okay to not get out the door? And when you don't get out the door, are you going to have a plan B for those occasions that you are going to follow through with? So, answer all those hard questions for yourself and get really clear on what consistency actually looks like.

And then the third thing is just start being this person now, like today, like right now as you're listening to me. Don't wait for consistency to start feeling natural or feel inspired to be consistent. Acting like a dependable person now, starting right this very moment, is how consistency becomes natural.

What does she do, that consistent version of yourself? Or what does she stop doing? Maybe she stops negotiating with herself every day, every single run. And she stops making these elaborate justifications for why following through doesn't matter today and why it's the right decision. In every situation, ask yourself, what does the consistent version of me do in this situation? What does the follow-through version of me do in this situation? And then do that.

Every time you run when you don't want to because you're consistent, you build evidence that you're someone who follows through. Now, you might be thinking, that sounds great, but I'm not consistent right now. I'm really having problems with it right now. How can I claim to be somebody who follows through when I literally just spent 20 minutes reorganizing my sock drawer instead of running?

Here's the key. You're not pretending to be someone you're not. You're deciding to become a new version of yourself, one that you like better.

Every time you act like this consistent version of yourself, every time you do what she would do, even when it feels unnatural and foreign right now when you're starting, you're building evidence for that identity.

You can look back and say, I was tempted to reorganize my sock drawer, and I didn't. I got out for the run, and it felt so good. You don't have to see yourself as a consistent follow-through person at first. Of course, you're not going to. But you just have to act like she would act, and little by little, becoming that consistent person who's proud of the way she follows through, that repeated action is what builds the identity.

And here's one thing to know. This works even when a run goes badly, like my client was worried about. The identity isn't, I'm someone who gets out the door and then has great runs; they all turn out better than I expect them to. It's - I'm someone who does what I say I'm going to do every time. Good run or bad, I'm not afraid of it. I know there's going to be some bad runs sometimes, but I handle them. I learn from them, and I improve from all of it.

So, here is what happens when you become that consistent version of yourself. You stick with it and you become that version of yourself. You start trusting yourself more. You start liking yourself more. You become more confident because you know you can count on yourself to follow through. You become happier with your running because you're being the person you know you want to be. Instead of sometimes showing up for yourself, you're regularly making promises to yourself and keeping them.

The runners you admire - think about this. The runners you admire, whoever it is, this is one reason that you admire them. They keep promises to themselves because it's who they are, and you can see them do it. And you, just like they do, have the ability to be that person too.

So, if you're tired of the cycle of procrastinating when you should be running, start approaching it differently today with this one decision. The next time you find yourself cleaning the microwave when you should be running, remember, you don't need to find motivation. You're just somebody who runs, who does the tough thing even when it's unpleasant, even when you could skip it. Because that person? She gets out the door and she goes.

All right, y'all. That's this week's episode. Thanks for listening. If you know someone who could use this, share it with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear today. See you next week. Bye.

Thanks for listening to Unstoppable Ultra Runner. If you want more ultra talk, mindset tools, and strategies for running with confidence, visit www.susanidonnelly.com. This podcast receives production support from the team at Digital Freedom Productions. That’s it for today’s episode. See you next week.

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Susan Donnelly

Susan is a life coach for ultrarunners. She helps ultrarunners build the mental and emotional management skills so they can see what they’re capable of.

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