53. DNF Post-Mortem: What Went Right and What to Do Next

A DNF often feels like the ultimate failure, but what if it’s actually the key to unlocking your next finish? In this episode, I’m diving into a pattern I see with so many of my clients after a DNF: viewing it as a setback instead of a sign that you are getting closer to your goal.

The real challenge after a DNF is not trying to redeem yourself, but reflecting on what went right. Rather than fixating on the negative moments, I want you to look at the full race and recognize the wins. What did you handle well? Where did you show strength, even when things were tough? By reframing your race experience and acknowledging your successes, you’ll see that the DNF actually reveals the one or two things that need to be adjusted for your next attempt.

In this episode, you’ll discover why a DNF is actually a sign that you’re closer to finishing than you think. I’ll walk you through the process of reflecting on your race, how to spot the wins that often get overlooked, and the one or two small adjustments that can make all the difference in your next race.

The Ultrarunner’s Mastery Debrief Template helps you evaluate your races like experienced ultrarunners do - identifying what worked, what didn’t work, and what to do differently next time. Download yours for free here.


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • The importance of reflecting on what went right during the race.

  • How to separate your feelings of disappointment from the valuable lessons of the race.

  • Why identifying one or two small adjustments is all you need to move forward.

  • How to create a mental framework that turns setbacks into growth opportunities.

  • The power of reflection and post-race evaluation in getting back on track.

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You think the DNF is proof that you're further away from finishing than you thought. But it's actually proof you're closer than you knew, if you know how to read it.

Welcome to Unstoppable Ultra Runner, the podcast for ultra runners who refuse to let anything hold them back. I’m your host, Susan Donnelly, veteran of over 150 100-mile races, and a coach who helps runners like you break through mental roadblocks, push past doubt, and run with confidence. Let’s go.

Welcome to Episode 53. I have been looking forward to this one because I'm sharing a pattern I see consistently across my clients when I look at them as a whole. And it's something that they don't see individually by themselves, and I bet you're not seeing it either.

Now, this is coming straight from my work doing post-race evaluations with my clients after DNFs. So it's not something you're going to hear anywhere else. And here's what it's going to do for you. If you really get this, if you really hear what I'm saying and do what I'm telling you in this episode, it's going to change how you feel about your last DNF and make you a lot less afraid of having another one. So if you're feeling bad about a DNF, like disappointed, regretful, like you let yourself down, or worried that you will, this episode is for you.

And before we dive in, I want to take a moment and clarify that this is not an exercise in making the disappointment go away or pretending you aren't disappointed. You're going to be disappointed about a DNF, and I always recommend feeling that and processing that and not trying to avoid feeling what's just natural to feel after a DNF when you didn't hit your goal. But I don't want you to miss the good news while you're dealing with those feelings because that's the mistake I see. In the rush to get over that disappointment, you lose the chance to see how close you actually are.

All right, here's a scenario for this episode. You DNF'd a race. It doesn't matter for this episode whether you timed out or dropped out; it's the DNF we're talking about here. So, you feel disappointed, of course, because it's not the way you wanted the race to go. It's depressing. You thought you'd have a great story to tell everybody and maybe a buckle or a finish line photo to show off, but instead, here you sit with a failure that you don't want to talk about. You want to move on, and the sooner, the better. You need to find a race to redeem yourself, or so you think. And by the way, that's the word I hear: redemption. That is not my word. I don't love that word because you don't need redemption.

But that's the thinking I hear after a DNF. Move on, clean up the record, get redemption. What's actually happening in this moment is that if you're writing off a DNF, like wanting to move away really super quickly, move on to the next race, you're throwing away the key that the DNF is trying to hand you, the key to finishing the next race. It seems so much easier in the short run to say that you learned something and you're going to move on really quickly. But it's harder in the long run if you do that because if you don't actually do this kind of postmortem evaluation, you risk running into the same issues next time and just assuming that you're stuck with them, like you can't get over them. They're a part of you.

So, right now, the DNF probably means to you that a finish is further away than you ever imagined, like not just hard to do, but out of reach, light years away from you. And here's the problem with that: The DNF likely means the exact opposite, that you're closer than you think. But you don't know it because right now you can't see it.

And after doing innumerable postmortem evaluations with clients over the years, here's what I've found every time—and I mean every single time, no exceptions. When you're coming off a DNF and you feel hopeless, like the next race is out of reach, you're missing three very important things. You're misinterpreting wins as things that went wrong. You're not seeing that far more went right than wrong, and you're missing that there's only one thing to fix, like only one thing between you and a finish. The DNF is handing you exactly what you've been wanting: proof you can do it. You are so close. But right now, you can't see that because you're looking the other way.

And here's why. When you think about that race, your brain takes shortcuts. It doesn't replay the whole thing start to finish. It goes straight to the highlights, and those are usually the worst moments, the most dramatic ones. And it also goes to how the race ended. Like the worst moments and the DNF ending, it does not look at the average, and it definitely doesn't look at the full picture. So, then you build the whole story backward from the DNF. That's your ending. So subconsciously, everything in the story gets arranged to explain the DNF.

The story in your mind has to explain that ending. So you misinterpret the strength you had in hard moments as errors. And the places where you dug deep and made a tough call and kept moving when it was hard to do that, your brain files those away in the story as problems because in your mind, to fit with the story, those moments shouldn't have happened. The race should have gone smoothly. So anywhere it was hard feels like a mistake.

When those moments were actually the moments where it was hard and you did handle it. And the result in your mind with this mental shortcut is this overwhelming pile of mistakes, bad decisions, weak moments. It looks too big and too complicated to ever untangle, like you'll just never be able to finish it.

And the race feels so frustrating. You trained, you were ready, or so you thought, and it was nothing like the race you thought you were going to have. And here's a phrase I hear so much: "So much went wrong." I hear that all the time because you thought it would be close and you could do it, and you would bravely persevere and grit your way through the discomfort and keep moving and cross the finish line with a smile and a happy ending. And instead, here's the story I hear: "The first 10 miles were great. And then this went wrong and that went wrong, and I had this bad close call, and this didn't go right, and that went wrong. And then worst of all, I dropped." It's just like a pile of if-onlys. There's nothing good in it.

So you don't want to look at it. You want to move on. You want to put it behind you. You want to stop feeling that let down as soon as you possibly can. The absolute last thing you want to do is go back through that horrible story in detail and relive it. So in doing that, you're missing out on the real wins from the race just because it happened to end in a DNF. In your mind, you can't reconcile having wins and a DNF. Those two things just don't go together.

Now, to turn this around, what you have to do is look at the race from a different perspective, not through the shortcuts that your brain automatically defaults to. You have to look at the whole race, start to finish, as accurately as you can see it. And I've been trying to think of how to explain this. You need to create a space in your mind, like an oasis in your mind, apart from the disappointment that you're feeling. The disappointment can stay there, but you need to create this space in your mind where you can look at the race, the whole race, not just the moments where you dropped or got pulled or the bad things, but look at the whole race with curiosity.

And that's exactly why I created the Ultrarunner's Mental Mastery Debrief Template. It's a free guide, and I'll give you the link at the end of the episode. And what it does is it helps you create that space and that oasis in your head, and it gives you the framework for walking through the race objectively instead of just letting your brain fill in that story. And here's what it does differently that I want you to know. It starts with the positive, what went right. And you have to list everything before you can move on and look at what went wrong.

And then, once you've done all the positives and the things that went right, then and only then can you go through and list what didn't go right, and then what you're going to do about it. And it has prompts specifically designed to find the wins that you'd miss if you were just thinking through the race in your head, the moments that you wrote off as mistakes but actually weren't, actually were strengths.

Now, every client I have done this with ends up amazed, every single one. What we find consistently is that far more went right than wrong. I'm talking 80% went right to 20% went wrong, and more often, 90% went right, only 10% went wrong. If you do this evaluation honestly, that's what you'll find, which means there's only one or two things to fix, not that overwhelming pile that you thought you had, only one or two things between you and a finish. You're closer than you imagined, not further away.

And there are two reasons that this works. First, those mental shortcuts I've been talking about, like remembering the peak bad things that happened and, of course, the DNF ending, those happen automatically when you're just thinking in your head. Your brain fills in the story around those anchors so that it feels like a complete story and it feels true, but it's not the whole picture. And what putting it on paper does is slows that mental process down.

And it takes you through the race—the template takes you through the race system by system: your mind, your decisions, your management of your body, and your race execution. Every one of those systems gets its own honest look, so you can't focus everything on those few dramatic moments because the template prompts you to evaluate the rest of the race. Every part of the race gets included.

Don't get me wrong. The mental shortcut I've been talking about is a super useful tool most of the time. We couldn't get through a normal day without those mental shortcuts. But here, in this case, they get about a DNF, it's working against you. And putting an evaluation down on paper removes that, fixes that. The second reason this works is because the evaluation on that template starts with positives. And believe me, this is one of the hardest parts for my clients because they want to charge into telling me where things fell apart or the moment that they dropped or all the bad dramatic things, like I said.

And when you're just thinking about a race without evaluating it, the DNF frames everything. The whole story has to fit that ending, so even the neutral moments where you're just running along in the race, like everything's okay, and the good moments, of course, all get reframed for how they somehow led to the DNF. But starting your evaluation with what went right, before you're allowed to look at what went wrong, forces your brain out of that frame. It forces you to spot wins.

And once something is written down as a win, it's hard to look at it again and recategorize it as a failure. You've already put it down in the win column. So when you get to the negatives, what went wrong, that list is genuinely smaller, and not because you're being overly positive or you're pretending like you're happy about it, but because you already accurately counted all those moments where things went right. The race was never as bad as that DNF ending makes it feel.

And to help you get this, let me give you three client examples. The first client came to me after attempting Miwok 100k. It was her first ultra and a race that meant a lot to her personally. And on race morning, wouldn't you know it, a freak winter storm blew in, and she was not dressed for it, and she started going hypothermic partway through the race and ended up having to drop. Now, the obvious fix here is carry more layers next time, dress appropriately for the weather. And her story when she came to me was, "I failed, and I think I'm not cut out for ultras."

But when we went through the evaluation of this race, here's what we found. Besides carrying more appropriate layers, which is obvious, the only other thing between her and a finish was fueling. She hadn't been able to eat because she was so cold, and she didn't have a plan for getting regular calories in. Just a simple fueling skill that she didn't need in shorter road races and something that was super easy to fix. And let me tell you, she fixed it, and she went on to finish her first 100-miler in under 24 hours. She went from, "I utterly failed and maybe I'm not cut out for longer ultras that I want to do," to, "I can do more than I imagined possible."

The second client DNF'd Shawnee Hills 100k. It was his first attempt at 100k on a new course that he'd never run. He hadn't even been to that area, so he didn't know what to expect. And when he got to them in the race, parts of the course were tougher than he expected. And he had so many moments where things went wrong and freaked him out and threw him mentally off balance. So his story when he came to me was, "I freaked out way too much and dropped when my body was actually fine."

And what he didn't see was—and we found this when we went through an evaluation—was that every time he freaked out, he got past it beautifully. I mean, he did encounter problems, and the freak out was, like, totally worthwhile, and he got past those beautifully. He shifted quickly from reaction to practical response and kept moving. He handled those moments every time until the last one, about 10 miles from the finish, where he didn't and dropped, but it was just one moment. And that was the only difference in a strong series of wins. He shifted that story about the race from, "I let so many things freak me out," to, "I'm stronger than I realized."

Okay, the third client is one who's training for Leadville. Now, he's DNF'd it before, like me, and his story reinforced by that DNF experience is that he reacts under pressure without thinking things through, and it's just a trait he can't get past. And when we evaluated a 50-mile race on a new course that he did just a few weeks ago, what we found was that opportunity after opportunity came up in the race for him to react out of anxiety, and he didn't. I mean, he didn't even see those moments as opportunities to react. He just saw them as moments, and he handled them calmly and finished the race just fine. So, he is starting to shift his story from, "I just have this pattern of reacting I can't help," to, "This pattern isn't always the pattern."

If you're feeling bad about a DNF, this is for you. I have yet to work with a client who wasn't one step away from a finish when they felt like it was completely out of reach. Not once. And here's what we found every time we've done one of those evaluations. They were misinterpreting things that went right as things that went wrong, and far more went right than went wrong. And there was one fix, not 20, not an overwhelming pile. One or two. That's it. And that's good news, really good news.

The next time you DNF, you're going to know exactly what to do with it. And that's what I want you to feel right now. Not just less disappointed, I want you to feel excited because that's what this actually is. You're right on the edge of figuring this out. The finish that you want, it's not some distant dream. It's only one or two things away. You can shift your story the way that my clients shifted theirs. You'll find strength that you didn't know you had, and you'll find that just one or two things were off, which means everything else in all those miles and all those hours you were out there, everything else went right.

You can get the debrief template by clicking the link in the show notes of this episode or by going to susanidonnelly.com/master-debrief-template. Get it, use it, do it honestly, and give it thought, and you'll find, like my clients, that the DNF didn't push the finish line further away. It showed you how close the finish line actually is. It is way closer than you thought. You're not lost in the fog of the DNF. You now know how close you are, and you know the one or two things you need to do to get there.

All right, you all. That's this week's episode. Thanks for listening. If you know somebody who could use this, please share it with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. See you next week. Bye.

Thanks for listening to Unstoppable Ultra Runner. If you want more ultra talk, mindset tools, and strategies for running with confidence, visit www.susanidonnelly.com. This podcast receives production support from the team at Digital Freedom Productions. That’s it for today’s episode. See you next week.

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Susan Donnelly

Susan is a life coach for ultrarunners. She helps ultrarunners build the mental and emotional management skills so they can see what they’re capable of.

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